21 year old Smith College student. Studio Art major. Angry Feminist. This is an accurate representation of my life and brain.
Lay me on the table, put flowers in my mouth
And we can say we invented a summer lovin' torture party
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I am so, so, so tired of seeing pictures of mangled children, of parents with faces contorted in grief, of corpses that are charred, with missing limbs, with holes in them. A few days ago they were circulating a picture of a child from Gaza who’s skull had been cracked open and hollowed out. Stop it. Stop circulating these pictures.

There’s a reason you only see these pictures of brown and black bodies from third world countries. Think about it for a second, have you ever seen pictures of the dead from 9/11 or the Boston bombing or any of the hundreds of school shootings that happen in the US?

But see those lives matter so much more, you don’t need a picture of a burned body to care, just the thought of it happening is enough to make you horrified. And the thought of anybody publishing pictures from the events I just mentioned probably repulses you, so why don’t you have the same reaction to the images coming out of Gaza?

I used to think that people needed to see these pictures, to know what’s going on, to be forced to care—but it’s fucking bullshit. It’s bullshit that people should have to make an exposition of their private pain for you to care about atrocities against humanity. Knowing what’s happening there should be enough, pictures of destroyed homes and explosions are more than enough proof if that’s what you’re after. 

It’s beyond cruel that people who have just lost those that they love, parents who’ve lost little babies, should then be expected to make a performance of their pain so that maybe just maybe this stupid fucking apathetic world will care for once. People are expected to air their grief so your stupid ass will have something to cry over and be ‘moved’ by. I’m so sick of people’s grief being put on display for the disinterested viewer who can switch it off and walk away at any time, who couldn’t possibly understand what it’s like.

There is a certain respect granted to the dead and to the grief of those from privileged backgrounds. To deny someone that respect is to belittle the greatness of their loss and to reduce their pain to the politics it stems from; it is to say their human experiences are somehow less—and it goes hand in hand with the racist and disgusting idea that those brown and black people who live in strife ridden areas, those who have to fight for their lives, somehow value life less. Only those we dehumanize are denied respect like this.

Enough. Stop making a spectacle of their grief, stop making a spectacle of the dead.

Fucking enough.

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it’s pretty common for people discussing rape culture within feminist discourse to conveniently leave out disabled girls, but this is just a casual reminder that disabled women are far more likely to be sexually assaulted, abused or raped than able-bodied women. on top of that, 50% of deaf girls and 54% of deaf boys have been sexually abused or assaulted. so please stop leaving us out of your discussion about rape culture.

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I had someone tell me that dislike of Umbridge is usually from ingrained sexism toward female villains. I kind of stared in shock — I mean I love my lady villains. I love nasty female villains. I love sneaky and clever female villains. I love female villains that wrap themselves up in what the patriarchy expects of them and uses those expectations to smash someone upside the head. 

I tried to explain my hatred of Umbridge isn’t that she’s full of traditionally feminine attributes.  

It’s that she’s lawful evil. 

If you did an alignment chart, no one would represent lawful evil more than Umbridge. I don’t think there’s ever been a character that better sums up lawful evil. 

And, to me, lawful evil is the most terrifying and disturbing evil there is. 

To me, lawful evil is the shit that gets thousands of people killed while the person responsible walks away feeling like they did their duty. 

Evil forces like Bellatrix and Voldemort are fairy tales. They’re the bad guys a good guy can chase away with a sword or wand. 

Umbridge is that evil that really does lurk in the hearts of men (and women). The realness, the plausibility of it, makes her amazingly uncomfortable. 

So, yeah, I can’t get as excited about her as a fantasy book creation as easily as some other female villains. Not because she’s a woman, or because of her gender presentation, but because she represents a sort of evil that’s far, far too close to home. 

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It’s because white cis women are the only women allowed enough nuance of personality to afford not to perform femininity to the high degree that women of color or trans women have to in order to be respected. That’s why it’s cute and Feminist! if white cis girls have hairy legs while Mexican girls are made fun of for having lip hair

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Pick your poison - Trans edition

Pass well: Have your experience invalidated, feel like you’re hiding something

Don’t pass well: Get tortured by everyone by just trying to be comfortable

Don’t try to pass: Feel like crap, never show your true self

The idea of needing to Pass in public is toxic to Trans people.

Regardless of gender identity, nobody should ever be harassed for their clothing choices or the way they choose to express themselves.

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words to use instead of using “bipolar”


when you’re talking about something or someone changing a lot (rather than referring to bipolar disorder or someone with bipolar disorder) please don’t use “bipolar” to describe this.  because using “bipolar” when you’re annoyed with the weather or to insult your ex is really shitty.

  • moody
  • capricious
  • erratic
  • temperamental
  • volatile
  • inconsistent
  • fickle
  • impulsive
  • vacillating
  • mercurial
  • variable
  • unpredictable 

similar post for words to use instead of “OCD

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i wish more people said that being single is normal

and you’re not going to meet and marry someone

and that’s fine

and if marriage happens, it happens. and it’s not the next big ticket to check off in life’s checklist

because not everyone meets someone they want to marry. and that’s normal

you’re not broken or unfulfilled if you are single

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do me a favour. if a person wearing a long sleeved shirt or a sweatshirt and jeans on a hot day, don’t comment on it. don’t ask why they’re wearing it. don’t say anything at about it.

trust me, they know it’s hot, they know. but their reason for wearing what they’re wearing probably far outweighs the temperature outside.

this is so god damn important

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There is a conversation on facebook rn that I probably really should not butt into, it has nothing to do with my family but more one of my local friends, about the Hobby Lobby birth control ruling. And as much as one side of me says I shouldn’t butt in, there is no one helping on their side of things [which is basically Hobby Lobby is in the wrong, and a bunch of conservatives bawing at them], I really, REALLY want to say something to them, which I already typed up anyway:

The thing is, if individuals themselves want to not pay for birth control that “kills babies” [which, even the morning after pill does not do, it simply disrupts the signals in the ovaries so that it won’t release an egg in the first place, and therefore cannot become fertilized], then they are fully entitled to refrain from doing so. A company, which is not a single individual, denying certain types of BC to individuals that may need it, including but not limited to OUTSIDE of preventing pregnancy [which then prevents possible actual abortions, might I remind everyone], is infringing on that individual’s rights as a human being.

What if they can’t afford a specific kind of birth control they need in order to ENSURE that they do not get pregnant, whether fertilization happens or not? What if someone has endometriosis, and the type of birth control that can help right it is one that “kills babies”, because others aren’t working? For a time they can take the birth control to help regulate their system and later on actually IMPROVE their chance of having HEALTHY BABIES if they so choose without dying. What if they have a condition where becoming pregnant would be fatal to both them and the potential baby? Then the type of BC shouldn’t matter and should be available to people who need it . BC can decrease infertility in SOME people, yes, but it can INCREASE fertility in others, because no two people are the same. But from cysts to endometriosis, lack of periods, severe debilitating cramps, heavy bleeding, and a whole array of things that individuals face when it comes to menstrual cycles and pregnancy, birth control can regulate, fix, sometimes even cure. Ovaries can take severe damage during chemotherapy, and birth control can help the system get back on track.

People who really need it COULD pay out of pocket, but what about those who are already in a household of children living paycheck to paycheck who don’t want to be sterilized but don’t want to have more children right now? They barely have enough money to feed their kids AND pay $30, $50, $80 dollars a month out of pocket for BC. They can’t afford that IUD and the only thing keeping them from being overwhelmed is that their health insurance knocks that price down to $4 to $10. The average these days that one would have to make to have a proper decent life, living ALONE, would be at least $15 and hour, full time, and if adjusting for inflation since the idea of minimum wage was first created, min wage today should actually be closer to about $20-$24 an hour.

I am below the poverty line. I make $8 an hour and in the summer months is when business is actually slower I work maybe two days a week. I have a condition that causes my blood to clot HORRIBLY if the estrogen levels in my blood raise even a little bit. I nearly died with clots in my leg and my lungs three years ago because of the raised levels from one type of birth control, and I now have to use another instead. If I get pregnant, my estrogen will skyrocket. Either I will die, blood thinners may kill the potential child, or we will both die. I can’t risk getting pregnant and I can’t take most normal birth control. I scrape up $30 a month because I’m married and sexually active and have been refused anything like an ablation or tubal litigation because I’m “too young” and I also don’t have health insurance.

By doing this, a company says that the personal beliefs of a handful of conservatives is more important than the very real constant anxiety and threat of DEATH to those of us who may even have the same beliefs but RECOGNIZE that individuals should have full access whether they align with said beliefs or not. Because it will literally save our lives, and these corporations think that our lives mean nothing compared to their morality gatekeeping. THAT is what this ruling is saying to us.

Though honestly, the REASON for someone needing birth control in the first pace [sometimes very specific KINDS of bc] is really no one’s business except for the person who needs it.

Does Planned Parenthood offer Hormone Replacement Therapy for transgender people?



imageSomeone asked us: 

Can Planned Parenthood provide hormones to transgender people? And if so, what are the costs?

Why yes, yes we do. There are an increasing number of Planned Parenthood health centers that offer hormone replacement therapy (HRT) for trans clients. (Cost will vary depending on your insurance and Planned Parenthood health center policies.) Currently, the Planned Parenthood health centers that offer hormone treatment for trans folks are: 

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No one.

No one.

EVER has a right to touch you if you don’t want to be touched.

Not your husband. Not your fiance. Not your boyfriend. Not your partner. Not your friends. Not even your own family.

You are a person and your body is your own. And it’s a privilege if you allow someone to touch it.

A god damn privilege that can be snatched up and you don’t owe anyone a reason but that it’s your body and only YOUR body.

I wish someone told me when I was younger.

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The Importance of Mary Sue



When I was in Ninth Grade, I won a thing.  

That thing, in particular, was a thirty dollar Barnes & Noble gift certificate.  I was still too young for a part-time job, so I didn’t have this kind of spending cash on me, ever.  I felt like a god.

Drunk with power, I fancy-stepped my way to my local B&N.  I was ready to choose new books based solely on the most important of qualities…BADASS COVER ART.  I walked away with a handful of paperbacks, most of which were horrible (I’m looking at you, Man-Kzin Wars III) or simply forgettable.  

One book did not disappoint.  I fell down the rabbit hole into a series that proved to be as badass as the cover art promised (Again, Man-Kzin Wars III, way to drop the ball on that one).  With more than a dozen books in the series, I devoured them.  I bought cassette tapes of ballads sung by bards in the stories.  And the characters.  Oh, the characters.  I loved them.  Gryphons, mages, but most importantly, lots of women.  Different kinds of women.  So many amazing women.  I looked up to them, wrote bad fiction that lifted entire portions of dialogue and character descriptions, dreamed of writing something that the author would include in an anthology.

This year I decided in a fit of nostalgia to revisit the books I loved so damn much.  I wanted to reconnect with my old friends…

…and I found myself facing Mary Sues.  Lots of them.  Perfect, perfect, perfect.  A fantasy world full of Anakin Skywalkers and Nancy Drews and Wesley Crushers.  I felt crushed.  I had remembered such complex, deep characters and didn’t see those women in front of me at all anymore.  Where were those strong women who kept me safe through the worst four years of my life?

Which led me to an important realization as I soldiered on through book after book.  That’s why I needed them.  Because they were Mary Sues.  These books were not written to draw my attention to all the ugly bumps and whiskers of the real world.  They were somewhere to hide.  I was painfully aware that I was being judged by my peers and adults and found lacking.  I was a fuckup.  And sometimes a fuckup needs to feel like a Mary Sue.  As an adult, these characters felt a little thin because they lacked the real world knowledge I, as an adult, had learned and earned.  But that’s the thing…these books weren’t FOR this current version of myself.   Who I am now doesn’t need a flawless hero because I’m comfortable with the idea that valuable people are also flawed.

There is a reason that most fanfiction authors, specifically girls, start with a Mary Sue.  It’s because girls are taught that they are never enough.  You can’t be too loud, too quiet, too smart, too stupid.  You can’t ask too many questions or know too many answers.  No one is flocking to you for advice.  Then something wonderful happens.  The girl who was told she’s stupid finds out that she can be a better wizard than Albus Dumbledore.  And that is something very important.  Terrible at sports?  You’re a warrior who does backflips and Legolas thinks you’re THE BEST.   No friends?  You get a standing ovation from Han Solo and the entire Rebel Alliance when you crash-land safely on Hoth after blowing up the Super Double Death Star.  It’s all about you.  Everyone in your favorite universe is TOTALLY ALL ABOUT YOU.

I started writing fanfiction the way most girls did, by re-inventing themselves.  

Mary Sues exist because children who are told they’re nothing want to be everything.  

As a girl, being “selfish” was the worst thing you could be.  Now you live in Narnia and Prince Caspian just proposed marriage to you.  Why?  Your SELF is what saved everyone from that sea serpent.  Plus your hair looks totally great braided like that.

In time, hopefully, these hardworking fanfiction authors realize that it’s okay to be somewhere in the middle and their characters adjust to respond to that.  As people grow and learn, characters grow and learn.  Turns out your Elven Mage is more interesting if he isn’t also the best swordsman in the kingdom.  Not everyone needs to be hopelessly in love with your Queen for her to be a great ruler.  There are all kinds of ways for people to start owning who they are, and embracing the things that make them so beautifully weird and complicated.

Personally, though, I think it’s a lot more fun learning how to trust yourself and others if you all happen to be riding dragons.

Mary Sues exist because children who are told they’re nothing want to be everything.

A girl making herself the hero of her own story is a radical act. Stop shaming girls for doing it. Stop shaming yourself for it.