we should make a running list of things to that need to be included in sex education. everyone gets an inclusive program that covers the spectrums of gender, sex, and sexuality, equal representation of bodily anatomy, (which means if the penis diagram is heavily labeled and well-known, all other genital diagrams are as equally in-depth and well-known. people with vulvas not knowing what 90% of their genitals is wrong and leads to a lot of shame.) covers all known forms of birth control, even ones not ready for market (like the male birth control shot that no one is using because apparently only women are supposed to be in charge of that. thanks guys!) discussion and use of a variety of condoms, referred to in noncissexist manner, so like interior and exterior condoms instead of male and female, because not every person with a penis is a man, and not every person with a vagina is a woman. (let’s stop gendering products, period. especially my period products.)
it’d include discussion of puberty and the changes that people go through, and the class will not broken up or divided. everyone needs to be taught the whole program. girls aren’t going to just get one story, while the boys get another.
THERE WILL NEVER BE A MENTION OF “BOYS WILL BE BOYS” BECAUSE CONSENT WILL BE DISCUSSED THOROUGHLY, AND CONSENT WILL BE DISCUSSED FROM KINDERGARTEN ONWARDS AND ITS AS SIMPLE AS SAYING TO KIDS “hey, don’t touch people without their permission. if they don’t want to play with you, if they say no, YOU STOP.” this is heavily emphasized on boys because culture lets them get away a lot and encourages this behavior, but it needs to stop.
When we talk about sex, we’ll talk about the various ways people view sex and sexuality in their lives. Some people think sex is an experience to share and enjoy with many people, so they make seek out many sexual partners in their lives. Some people don’t like sex. Nothing bad happened to them, but one should understand that the desire to have sex, like sexuality and gender, is on a spectrum. There are Asexual people who refrain from sex because that’s just not their cup of tea, people who are highly sexual, people who are demisexual, meaning they don’t really experience sexual attraction unless they’ve gotten to know the person, or are already romantically involved. Sex isn’t the ultimate experience in life. Culture says it is, but it’s not. It can be if you want it to, and if it’s a powerful thing for you.
Discussion of real life scenarios involving consent, inebriation, and what you can do to prevent scenarios, and not being a dick and take advantage of someone. Really emphasize that because it’s not fucking emphasized enough. Teach them to fight and abhor rape and rape culture just as they would with cannibalism or even drugs, because they keep bringing in DARE. Fuck DARE, we need a program for kids that gives them tools for fighting real life problems, not a propaganda machine started by Nancy Reagan. (Which has done significant damage to the trust of authorities)
it focuses on self care and self love too. building up people’s abilities to take care of themselves before entering into the confusing and frustrating world of being sexual active. stressing the part of taking care of yourself first. “if you’re saying yes to someone, make sure you’re not saying no to yourself.” teach that no one is ever obligated to have sex ever, and if someone says you are, RED FLAG, smack them across the face for disregarding your bodily autonomy.
teach about sex in a way that neutralizes it instead demonizing or glorifying it. we have too many extremes about sex in our lives, we need to balance that. teach about the various that people have sex or make love. inclusion here is essential. ideally, this would be an expanding curriculum that starts young and follows them up to through high school.
waiting until high school for sex education is dangerous because people are already getting preyed upon before high school
had i known a lot of this at a young age, instead of building ideas of what sex was based off of culture, fanfiction, the few scraps my parents mentioned, and a “kids first book about sex” (which focused on getting to know your body, finding out what makes you feel good, it was inclusive as shit too, including queer couples and interracial couples. it was illustrated which was excellent for a visual mind), i would have been able to take care of myself and realize a lot of times i was saying yes to people, i was saying no to myself, or not even listening to myself.
okay ive been rambling and my ideas have run out, does anyone want to add on with ideas? i probably missed a bunch of things.