21 year old Smith College student. Studio Art major. Angry Feminist. This is an accurate representation of my life and brain.

we should make a running list of things to that need to be included in sex education. everyone gets an inclusive program that covers the spectrums of gender, sex, and sexuality, equal representation of bodily anatomy, (which means if the penis diagram is heavily labeled and well-known, all other genital diagrams are as equally in-depth and well-known. people with vulvas not knowing what 90% of their genitals is wrong and leads to a lot of shame.) covers all known forms of birth control, even ones not ready for market (like the male birth control shot that no one is using because apparently only women are supposed to be in charge of that. thanks guys!) discussion and use of a variety of condoms, referred to in noncissexist manner, so like interior and exterior condoms instead of male and female, because not every person with a penis is a man, and not every person with a vagina is a woman. (let’s stop gendering products, period. especially my period products.)

it’d include discussion of puberty and the changes that people go through, and the class will not broken up or divided. everyone needs to be taught the whole program. girls aren’t going to just get one story, while the boys get another.

THERE WILL NEVER BE A MENTION OF “BOYS WILL BE BOYS” BECAUSE CONSENT WILL BE DISCUSSED THOROUGHLY, AND CONSENT WILL BE DISCUSSED FROM KINDERGARTEN ONWARDS AND ITS AS SIMPLE AS SAYING TO KIDS “hey, don’t touch people without their permission. if they don’t want to play with you, if they say no, YOU STOP.” this is heavily emphasized on boys because culture lets them get away a lot and encourages this behavior, but it needs to stop. 

When we talk about sex, we’ll talk about the various ways people view sex and sexuality in their lives. Some people think sex is an experience to share and enjoy with many people, so they make seek out many sexual partners in their lives. Some people don’t like sex. Nothing bad happened to them, but one should understand that the desire to have sex, like sexuality and gender, is on a spectrum. There are Asexual people who refrain from sex because that’s just not their cup of tea, people who are highly sexual, people who are demisexual, meaning they don’t really experience sexual attraction unless they’ve gotten to know the person, or are already romantically involved. Sex isn’t the ultimate experience in life. Culture says it is, but it’s not. It can be if you want it to, and if it’s a powerful thing for you.

Discussion of real life scenarios involving consent, inebriation, and what you can do to prevent scenarios, and not being a dick and take advantage of someone. Really emphasize that because it’s not fucking emphasized enough. Teach them to fight and abhor rape and rape culture just as they would with cannibalism or even drugs, because they keep bringing in DARE. Fuck DARE, we need a program for kids that gives them tools for fighting real life problems, not a propaganda machine started by Nancy Reagan. (Which has done significant damage to the trust of authorities)

it focuses on self care and self love too. building up people’s abilities to take care of themselves before entering into the confusing and frustrating world of being sexual active. stressing the part of taking care of yourself first. “if you’re saying yes to someone, make sure you’re not saying no to yourself.” teach that no one is ever obligated to have sex ever, and if someone says you are, RED FLAG, smack them across the face for disregarding your bodily autonomy.

teach about sex in a way that neutralizes it instead demonizing or glorifying it. we have too many extremes about sex in our lives, we need to balance that. teach about the various that people have sex or make love. inclusion here is essential. ideally, this would be an expanding curriculum that starts young and follows them up to through high school.

waiting until high school for sex education is dangerous because people are already getting preyed upon before high school

had i known a lot of this at a young age, instead of building ideas of what sex was based off of culture, fanfiction, the few scraps my parents mentioned, and a “kids first book about sex” (which focused on getting to know your body, finding out what makes you feel good, it was inclusive as shit too, including queer couples and interracial couples. it was illustrated which was excellent for a visual mind), i would have been able to take care of myself and realize a lot of times i was saying yes to people, i was saying no to myself, or not even listening to myself.

okay ive been rambling and my ideas have run out, does anyone want to add on with ideas? i probably missed a bunch of things.

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I just got tested for HIV

locksandglasses:

It had me thinking about the sexual education in my high school. Once a year they do STD testing and they take a large group and bring them into the auditorium to show an educational video about chlamydia and gonorrhea. Later they give everyone a paper bag and a cup and send them on their merry way.  

They never taught us that we should get tested regularly.

They never taught us that we should get tested for anything other than chlamydia or gonorrhea.

They never taught us what to do if we come up positive.

They never taught us how to talk to our partners about our status.

I think it all comes back to a fear people seem to have about sex. They feel that if we just don’t have it, then they don’t need to talk about anything else. It’s ridiculous and only perpetuates the problem that they are supposedly trying to combat. And I wish “they” was just one motha fucka that we could murk right quick, but unfortunately they is a mindset. And those are harder to battle.                                                         

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11 Facts about Sex Education in the US

sex-ed4everyone:

  1. More than two thirds of all public school districts have a policy to teach sex education. The other 33% of districts leave policy decisions up to individual schools or teachers.
  2. Of all public school districts, 86% require that abstinence be promoted in their sex ed programs.
  3. Only 14% of public school districts with a policy to teach sexual education address abstinence as one option in a broader educational program to prepare adolescents to become sexually healthy adults.
  4. Over half of the districts in the South with a sex education policy have an abstinence-only policy, compared with 20% of such districts in the Northeast.
  5. More than 90% of teachers believe that students should be taught about contraception, but 25% are prohibited from doing so.
  6. The majority of Americans (including three quarters of parents) favor more comprehensive sexuality education over abstinence-only education.
  7. There are currently three federal programs dedicated to funding restrictive abstinence-only education, requiring programs to teach that sexual activity outside of marriage is wrong and harmful for people of any age, prohibits them from discussing contraceptive use except to emphasize their failure rates. These programs had a total annual funding of $102 million in 2002.
  8. About 35% require abstinence be taught as the only option for unmarried people and either prohibit the discussion of contraception altogether or limit discussion to its ineffectiveness. 15% of Americans would prefer an abstinence-only education.
  9. There is currently no federal law program dedicated to supporting comprehensive sexuality education that teaches young people about both abstinence and contraception.
  10. About 51% have a policy to teach abstinence as the preferred option for teens and permit discussion of contraception as an effective means of preventing pregnancy and STDs.
  11. Recent research shows that abstinence-only strategies may deter contraceptive use among sexually active teenagers, increasing their risk of unintended pregnancy and STDs.
Sources: Guttmacher Institute, Advocates for Youth, NPR, Sexuality Information and Education Council of the United States
Each one of these eleven facts serves to further reinforce the growing need and relevance of comprehensive sexuality education in public schools. I think that the eleventh fact has very interesting implications: by telling our youth not to engage in sex, we are creating a barrier of distrust. We are not validating their desires or even communicating that they are worthy of escaping the ignorances of previous generations. Our youth have more sexual health risks to deal with than ever before, and continuing to emphasize the failure rates of contraception is only making it less effective by eliminating the need for it. We need to create an environment for safe, informed decisions if these are the kinds of decisions that we want to prevail, or we will continue to live in denial and suffering.