21 year old Smith College student. Studio Art major. Angry Feminist. This is an accurate representation of my life and brain.
Lay me on the table, put flowers in my mouth
And we can say we invented a summer lovin' torture party
Reblogged from laura-thesedays  661 notes

evilfeminist:

The only thing that women have to do to be called a “man hater” is name male violence. That is it, any analysis they might have is brushed aside for being too “angry” or too narrowly focused. 
But when was the last time you heard a man called “woman hater”? Even when men are abusive, or rapists, or johns, or even when they kill women, they are not given that label. His actions are typically explained away, or at worse shoved to the fault of his victim. 

Pop culture is busy gender-neutralizing away such realities as that men commit significantly far more murders against both men and women than women do, that sexual harassment by men of women far exceeds cases of the opposite, that “spouse” abuse is a crime committed by men over 90% of the time, and that anywhere from 80% to 97% of violent crimes from simple assault, to armed robbery, to sexual assault, are committed by men (data from Department of Justice statistics for 1998).

But in stark contrast to factual reality, pop culture makes it appear we are living in postfeminism: Where both women and men routinely break people’s arms in anger. Where just as many women sexually harass men in the workplace as vice versa. Where prostitutes choose their career as freely as brain surgeons do, without coercion or a web of abuse, poverty and drug addiction.

A key question to ask is whom does this confusion benefit? It benefits the system of male domination by not challenging men to take responsibility for the ways they use violence and sexism to maintain power over others. Men will go to great lengths to prevent feminists from pointing out the faults of men and masculinity. It serves men’s comfort level to keep popular culture male-centric and to label any truth-telling about men’s violence as male-bashing. And men are well positioned to control how issues are addressed in popular culture: it is by far men who control the networks, the news media, and the decision-making about what goes on TV.

When viewing pop culture, the caveat is: don’t be fooled by anecdotal evidence or by melodramatic stories trying to confuse the issue. It is simple: men commit the overwhelming majority of violent crimes. Men wage war. Men beat, murder, stalk women significantly more often than women commit these behaviors, and when men do it, it is more severe.

By Jennie Ruby, ”Man Bites Dog! How the mainstream media obscures the fact of male violence.” off our backs, December 2000, V.30; N.11 p. 12.

Reblogged from kindrage  5,871 notes

kindrage:

drakesquad:

drakesquad:

even when i wear “man murdering winged eyeliner” and “the blood of men lipstick” the fact is, the makeup industry is

  • owned by men
  • run by men
  • marketed towards women to attract men

libfems:  stop reblogging this and whining that wearing makeup is personally empowering.  independent empowerment is not the same as liberation and if you think it is then you aren’t thinking at all

I recommend buying from indie companies that you know have women leading it! Yes, it’s still within a fucked up capitalist system, but it’s better to support these small women-owned businesses than to buy from huge corporate makeup companies. Makeup does not have to inherently be purchased from men or aimed towards the male gaze. 

A few examples of such businesses: Notoriously Morbid, Black Rose Minerals, Darling Girl Cosmetics, Geek Chic Cosmetics (Controversy), Shiro Cosmetics, Morgana’s Cryptoria, Portland Black Lipstick Co., Fyrinnae, Aromaleigh Mineral Cosmetics, Chinovi CosmeticsAlchimia Apothecary, Meow Cosmetics, Little Sparrow Cosmetics, Scaredy Cat Cosmetics

A lot of these indie companies are also more affordable and more often vegan-friendly! I haven’t shopped from all of the above stores, but I have shopped from a couple of them and am quite pleased with the products. Feel free to add more companies or share your experiences with the above or additional indie companies. 

oooooh thanks for this! i’ve wanted to support better make up companies for a while! yay!

Reblogged from ampullae  15,423 notes

silversarcasm:

how can you not see ableism as a feminist issue

autistic girls, especially black autistic girls, are misdiagnosed and underdiagnosed because of the focus on white cis boys and how they present as autistic

disabled girls and women often have their consent violated, both in medical procedures and otherwise, our bodies and minds are often not considered are own and we are dismissed as not having the capacity to make our own decisions

on top of that many disabled girls are seen as delusional and their speaking out about the abuse they have face, by whatever communication method, is often seen as them making things up and over reacting

many disabled women are fetishised and seen as an outrageous ‘thing’ to fuck, but are not seen as human

disabled girls, especially physically disabled girls, do not live up to ideas of beauty in our society and often have extreme self esteem issues

disabled women and girls face more shit than you could ever know and I need you to understand

Ableism. Is. A. Feminist. Issue.

Men are always asking me “why is feminism still important?” and “why should I care about feminism?”

mermaidxvx:

brute-reason:

I can’t answer that for you. Go out and learn it.

Go into the city with a female friend. Walk 20 feet behind her and listen.

Make an account on a social site. Use a female name and photo. Post something, anything.

Go to a Take Back The Night march. Listen to the survivors speak out afterwards.

Set a timer on your phone or watch for two minutes. When the alarm goes off, another woman in the United States has been sexually assaulted.

Make an account on a dating site as a woman. Check your messages.

Take a walk through a toy store. Look at which toys are “meant” for boys and which are “meant” for girls.

Hang out with six of your female friends. Statistically, one of them has been raped. The chance that her rapist served any jail time for it is 3%.

Watch a movie. Almost any movie will do. Who’s the hero? Who gets saved? Who speaks the most?

Listen to other guys insult each other when they REALLY want to put each other down. “Pussy.” “Bitch.” “Sissy.” The worst thing for a man to be is like a woman.

But most importantly, read. Read bell hooks, read Jessica Valenti, read Amanda Marcotte, read Gail Collins, read Julia Serano. Read blogs and essays. Read literature written by women. I bet they didn’t assign you much of that in high school English class.

If I had unlimited time and energy to debate with you and patiently explain Why You Should Care About Feminism and counter each of your points with all the books and articles I’ve read, believe me, I would. But I don’t.

So go out and learn.

reblogging again because I really need to tell all my male friends.

Reblogged from sheepyshavings  41,177 notes
rahleeyah:

this is one of the more disgusting things i have seen on my dash recently.
let me break this down for you. it’s terrible because what it says is:
don’t be friends with girls! girls are catty and awful!1!! (because we should absolutely discourage positive relationships among young women)
girls never shut their mouths! you can’t trust them as far as you could throw them!
girls can’t be trusted because their hormones make them crazy! ALL GIRLS GO CRAZY WITH HORMONE THINGS AND CANNOT BE TRUSTED TO DO THINGS LIKE, BE YOUR FRIEND. OR RUN YOUR GOVERNMENT. EVER. HORMONES.
your girl friends will steal your boyfriends! doesn’t matter if said girl friend is attracted to boyfriend or if boyfriend is even worth having, she will try to steal him with no regard to your feelings because BITCHES BE CRAY. 
girl friends are not capable of compassion or helping you out when you’re cold.
you should not be friends with a girl because she’s not physically strong enough to help in an emergency situation. fuck that weak bitch.
YOU SHOULD BE FRIENDS WITH A BOY BECAUSE HE MIGHT FALL IN LOVE WITH YOU! YOUR FRIENDSHIPS SHOULD BE BASED ON THE POSSIBILITY OF YOU NAILING DOWN A HETERO LIFE MATE NOT BASED ON, LIKE, IF YOU ENJOY SPENDING TIME WITH THAT PERSON.
seriously this is really desperately upsetting to me. we hear this all the time, not from just “society” but from people we know, how girls are awful and boys are better and even women spout out this garbage about how it’s better to not be friends with girls. this is SO WRONG.  be friends with who you want to be friends with. develop positive relationships. don’t be bogged down by negative stereotypes.

rahleeyah:

this is one of the more disgusting things i have seen on my dash recently.

let me break this down for you. it’s terrible because what it says is:

  • don’t be friends with girls! girls are catty and awful!1!! (because we should absolutely discourage positive relationships among young women)
  • girls never shut their mouths! you can’t trust them as far as you could throw them!
  • girls can’t be trusted because their hormones make them crazy! ALL GIRLS GO CRAZY WITH HORMONE THINGS AND CANNOT BE TRUSTED TO DO THINGS LIKE, BE YOUR FRIEND. OR RUN YOUR GOVERNMENT. EVER. HORMONES.
  • your girl friends will steal your boyfriends! doesn’t matter if said girl friend is attracted to boyfriend or if boyfriend is even worth having, she will try to steal him with no regard to your feelings because BITCHES BE CRAY. 
  • girl friends are not capable of compassion or helping you out when you’re cold.
  • you should not be friends with a girl because she’s not physically strong enough to help in an emergency situation. fuck that weak bitch.
  • YOU SHOULD BE FRIENDS WITH A BOY BECAUSE HE MIGHT FALL IN LOVE WITH YOU! YOUR FRIENDSHIPS SHOULD BE BASED ON THE POSSIBILITY OF YOU NAILING DOWN A HETERO LIFE MATE NOT BASED ON, LIKE, IF YOU ENJOY SPENDING TIME WITH THAT PERSON.

seriously this is really desperately upsetting to me. we hear this all the time, not from just “society” but from people we know, how girls are awful and boys are better and even women spout out this garbage about how it’s better to not be friends with girls. this is SO WRONG.  be friends with who you want to be friends with. develop positive relationships. don’t be bogged down by negative stereotypes.

Reblogged from neil-gaiman  8,714 notes

real feminists don’t gaze at males.

neil-gaiman:

amandapalmer:

i won’t link to the full review of our show the other night, or even name the publication (if you care, google), because i don’t want to give the writer the satsifaction of the hits. but can i talk for a moment about how incredibly much this pisses me off? thanks, i will. the review begins:

“‘How can I make my friends into feminists?’ ran one of the more odd questions put to Amanda Palmer during a sit-down Q&A in the midst of this show. One answer, if you happen to be an internationally adored cabaret artist, is probably not to coo and gaze adoringly at your bestselling fantasy author husband for two hours in public.”

…and it goes on to give the rest of the show a great (four star) review. the show was, by the way, fantastic. neil read for about an hour, i played for about an hour, we did a bunch of great songs together, and i think pretty much everybody had a stellar fucking time.

anyway.

i’m not even sure what the journalist MEANT by this statement. did he mean “real feminists shouldn’t show open affection for their husbands?” or did he mean something else? the fact that i’m “internationally adored” and neil is “bestselling” seems to be part of the point he’s making, but….what’s the point? that if i were a real feminist i’d stand there screaming “I KNOW YOU THINK YOU’RE HOT SHIT, GAIMAN, WITH YOUR BEST-SELLING MAN-PENNED NOVELS AND ALL THAT CRAP, BUT I AM FAMOUS CABARET WOMAN! FUCK YOU MAN! I ALSO MAKE AN INCOME! I STAND HERE, EQUAL TO YOU, AND SHOWING YOU AFFECTION WOULD CLEARLY BE A SIGN THAT I KNOW I BELONG TO THE WEAKER SEX.”

rawr.

what?

the larger irony, of course, is how i ACTUALLY answered the question, which was something along the lines of:

“if you’re trying to turn your friends into feminists, i think you’re taking the wrong tack. i would back up and start off by not trying to turn them into ANYTHING…this is how we got into this whole mess in the first place.”

as far as i’m concerned, the most powerful feminist can do WHATEVER SHE WANTS.

THAT IS WHAT DEFINES A TRUE FEMINIST.

this includes: wearing heels, wearing combat boots, wearing nothing, sporting lipstick, shaving, not shaving, waxing, not waxing, being political, being apolitical, having a job, being homeless, gazing at men, gazing at women, gazing at porn of all sorts, glamming up like a drag queen, going in man-drag, being in a five-way polyamorous relationship, being childless, being a stay-at-home parent, being single, having a wife, having a husband, and gazing/cooing adoringly at those that wives or husbands anywhere they fucking choose, including elevators, restaurants, puppet shows (well, maybe keep it g-rated if there are small children present), ….or on theatrical stages at fringe festivals. are we getting the picture here?? the most powerful feminist can do WHATEVER SHE WANTS. the minute you believe you’re a “bad feminist” because you said the wrong thing/wore the wrong thing/got married/chose to have children…or otherwise broke some unspecified ”code of feminism”: DON’T BUY IT. THERE ISN’T ONE. you can do ANYTHING YOU WANT. ANYTHING. THAT’S THE POINT.

let’s say that one more time for good measure:

ANYTHING.

don’t let anyone try to turn you into a feminist.

just be one.



Reblogged for the whole thing (I’d done it from my phone before, and just the first paragraph link went up)

Reblogged from bigfatfeminist  217 notes

shut up. fuck.

muchomegamountains:

look. i’m glad, i’m really REALLY glad that there’s a million emails in my inbox talking about the upcoming “drinks for vaginas” and “rallies for vaginas” events that are set to happen in michigan. i really am. there’s next to NO feminist movement in michigan, and as such, there’s been next to no coordinated response *from feminists* to the attacks on reproductive rights in michigan that have happened over the decades.

so i’m glad to see all this outrage and that there’s actually an inclination to do something like organize.

but fucking fuck. shut the fuck up. that’s all i can think when i read the next new vagina email.

on the one hand, yes, it’s nice that they’re not all connecting vagina to woman. but on the other hand—the cutsy tootsy get drinks and talk about vagina aren’t i outrageous type of organizing that these emails represent? make me gag.

1. it’s gross. as in “too linked to upper class college girls going out and getting drunk and calling it activism” gross (yes, THIS HAPPENS. before anybody gets outraged, THIS TYPE OF ACTIVISM HAPPENS ALL THROUGH FEMINISM).

2. as a poor person who has had to use planned parenthood for multiple reasons—i need these bitches to be much more fucking serious about this shit. as in, outraged here for the long hall ready to fight for years if we must outraged. yes, i recognize that going out for drinks and celebrating vagina can very well lead to marching in the streets licking envelopes for hours and leading feminist sit ins—but as we’ve seen the past few years in femmoland—going out for drinks only very rarely goes much deeper than “EVERYBODY iS INVITED.”

3. and my bitch ass needs us to go deep. waaaay fucking deep. as in “why are we trying to shut down clinics that provide abortions during the depths of the endless fucking michigan recession we’ve all been sitting in for decades?” deep. as in, “why is the control of “what a woman is” and “what a woman can do” all of a sudden so important for a state that people want to “let die” and that obama has centered as the cornerstone of his “recovery” project?” deep. deep as in, “why do the fucking white christians who have more money than anybody else in the state get to decide what’s best for all the poor ass broke folk who can’t manage to get a fucking break” deep.

4. if you want to talk to me about how vagina has been positioned as weapons in the destruction of michigan—pour my bitch ass a drink. if you want to get drunk and yell vagina really loud in the bar so that everybody looks at you and you can feel special?

shut up. shut. the. fuck. up.

Reblogged from misscarletwitch  2,905 notes

An Open Letter to Men Who Cry “Misandry”

khaleesi:

bigfatfeminist:

Originally this was written as a response to a single inbox message, and then I got a couple more of them, and now it’s a letter to all of you. I am tired of you.

[TRIGGER WARNING: Rape, rape culture; eating disorders]

It must be exhausting carrying all this hate around, huh? You’re right! It is fucking exhausting! And if it makes me seem like a cranky, miserable bitch, then more power to me.

Do you know why I do it, though? You don’t really deserve an explanation, but I’m going to tell you anyway.

I do it because women’s bodies are sold and used to sell products and somehow this has become one and the same. Because a woman’s accomplishments will never be as important as her appearance in this society as it stands now. Because 65% of girls and women have reported eating disorders.

Because so many, many people — most of them men — tell me I am overreacting or hysterical or a cranky, miserable bitch when I talk about sexism. 

Because if I had a dime for every time some privileged, pompous ass doesn’t listen to me or tells me I’m wrong for no reason, really, just because he has a thing for Scarlett Johansson’s hair and doesn’t want to think about the fact that hey, maybe women are represented badly in the media, I could probably pay my rent for a year.

Because men feel entitled to tell me their opinions on women and entitled to be skeptical of my opinions on women as if I am not better able to comment, as if men are considered the experts on absolutely everything — oh wait, because the entire fucking news media thinks that they are.

Because I live in a world where I spend way too much of my time calculating the possibility that I will be assaulted. I do not know any woman who doesn’t do this. I do not know any woman who doesn’t constantly consider and reconsider the risk of her activities, even if she doesn’t do it consciously, even if she no longer thinks twice about going to the grocery store by herself — if she does it late at night, you can bet there’s a part of her that’s thinking it.

Because I live in a world where I have been told since I was single-digits young that men can hurt me. I live in a world where one out of six of my peers will be raped or sexually assaulted in her lifetime, and 54% of those assaults will go unreported, and 97% of those rapists will walk free. I live in a world where nine out of ten reported rape victims are female-bodied and the vast majority of rapists are men. I live in a world where 2/3rds of the women who are raped are raped by people they know and trust. This is the world I live in. This is a world you don’t even have to think about. This is a world that allows you to feel entitled to tell me my opinions don’t matter to you because they were presented in a way that didn’t cater to your ego, and call me a “cranky, miserable bitch” in the meantime as if you have any idea of whether or not I am actually either of those things. 

So no, I do not need to be polite about your “counter-points.” I do not need to say “Ah, yes, good point,” when you’re not making a good point at all. You are not unique. You have said to me what literally hundreds of other men have said to me before.

And I don’t need to listen to your bullshit, or anyone else’s bullshit. Ever.

The insanity has to stop, because as focused on me as it appears to have been, it is about all girls and women. In fact, it’s about boys and men, too, who are equally objectified and ridiculed, according to heteronormative definitions of masculinity that deny the full and dynamic range of their personhood. It affects each and every one of us, in multiple and nefarious ways: our self-image, how we show up in our relationships and at work, our sense of our worth, value, and potential as human beings. Join in—and help change—the Conversation. By Ashley Judd, The Daily Beast: Ashley Judd Slaps the Media in the Face

Reblogged from misscarletwitch  1,540 notes

Feminists .. yall doin’ it rong.

dank-potion:

If you tell a Muslim woman that her hijab (which she chooses to wear on her own terms) is oppressing her, you are wrong.

If you suggest to a woman that she doesn’t respect herself because of what she wears/does with her body, you are wrong.

If you agree with the use of the slogan “Woman is the Nigger of the World”, although black women have consistently stated their unhappiness with it, you are wrong.

If a non-heterosexual woman tells you she doesn’t like the term feminism because it’s not inclusive and you shun her for her concerns, you are wrong.

If a non-cisgender woman says her problems aren’t addressed and you tell her that feminism isn’t for her, you are wrong.

If you ignore the painfully obvious degrees of patriarchy, misogyny and oppression women of different backgrounds face, you are wrong.

If you derail any woman who is not white and voices her concerns over the mis/under representation of her ethnicity, you are wrong.