21 year old Smith College student. Studio Art major. Angry Feminist. This is an accurate representation of my life and brain.
Lay me on the table, put flowers in my mouth
And we can say we invented a summer lovin' torture party
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This is your more-or-less daily reminder that sex is physically painful for some people with vaginas, and this is sometimes because of inconsiderate/inept partners or lack of education, and sometimes really not.

Things that can cause this include: endometriosis, interstitial cystitis, ovarian cysts, vaginismus, vulvar vesitubulitis, scar tissue, low estrogen, various infections, and many more factors.

It’s important to say “if sex hurts, this is a legitimate problem and there are things you can do about it” as part of sex ed, but increasingly I see this being oversimplified into “sex should never hurt if you use enough patience and lube,” and that’s really not an okay simplification to make.  It makes this into a sexual performance issue (or even a political one) when it may well be a medical issue.

Patience and lube are definitely the first things to try—hell, you should probably try them even if things don’t hurt, they’re pretty awesome—but could everybody please stop spreading this misinformation that underpreparation is the only reason sex could possibly hurt?

i have kinks that many in feminist movements tell me repeatedly are a part of the power dynamics inherent in our society

and this makes me upset at times, like i cant experience and try out my sexuality in varying flavours and tones because apparently it’s part of the prepackaged ideals of sex that are being sold to us

i feel like when we blindly assume that women do certain kinks, FOR THEIR OWN GODDAMN PLEASURE, we might be erasing part of our sexual agency

AND YES, I SIT HERE AND THINK ABOUT THIS ON AN ALMOST DAILY BASIS, because it deeply upsets me, it makes me feel like im not being a complete feminist at times, because i like to have sex a certain way sometimes

we do need to be critical of the way sex is presented to us and the culture surrounding sex and how power dynamics impact our choices, but i like how gail dines says that we should be having sex creatively and how we WANT it

feel free to weigh in with your thoughts

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it takes 237 muscles to fake an orgasm but 15 to say “it’s called a clitoris and it’s right here”

#don’t ever fake an orgasm let them know they disappointed you

note to self note to everyone

i just stop making noises and stare at them until they realize they don’ fucked up

especially if they’re acting like they’re giving me the time of my life

bitch please, you would fucking know if you were

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When I say I’m pro-life…




It doesn’t mean I’m religious.
Because I’m not.

It doesn’t mean I hate LGBT community.
Because I am a supporter.

It doesn’t mean I force women to give birth.
Because I never will.

Take what you want from my blog, but never assume I’m just your stereotypical pro-lifer. It is VERY possible to ask questions, state your opinions in a civil manner on this blog. I am respectful and I enjoy answering all questions received! 

Thanks for following! :)

Let me tell you some things.

I used to investigate child abuse and neglect. I can tell you how to stop the vast majority of abortion in the world.

First, make knowledge and access to contraception widely available. Start teaching kids before they hit puberty. Teach them about domestic violence and coercion, and teach them not to coerce and rape. Create a strong, loving community where women and girls feel safe and supported in times of need. Because guess what? They aren’t. You know what happens to babies born under such circumstances? They get hurt, unnecessarily. They get sick, unnecessarily. They get removed from parents who love them but who are unprepared for the burden of a child. Resources? Honey, we try. There aren’t enough resources anywhere. There are waiting lists, and promises, and maybes. If the government itself can’t hook people up, what makes you think an impoverished single mom can handle it?

Abolish poverty. Do you have any idea how much childcare costs? Daycare can cost as much or more than monthly rent. They may be inadequately staffed. Getting a private nanny is a nice idea, but they don’t come cheap either. Relatives? Do they own a car? Does the bus run at the right times? Do they have jobs of their own they need to work just to keep the lights on? Are they going to stick around until you get off you convenience store shift at 4 AM? Do they have criminal histories that will make them unsuitable as caregivers when CPS pokes around? You gonna pay for that? Who’s going to pay for that?

End rape. I know your type errs on the side of blaming the woman, but I’ve seen little girls who’ve barely gotten their periods pregnant because somebody thought raping preteens was an awesome idea. You want to put a child through that? Or someone with a mental or physical inability for whom pregnancy would be frightening, painful or even life-threatening? I’ve seen nonverbal kids who had their feet sliced up by caregivers for no fucking reason at all, you think sexual abuse doesn’t happen either?

You say there’s lots of couples who want to adopt. Kiddo, what they want to adopt are healthy white babies, preferably untainted by the wombs and genetics of women with alcohol or drug dependencies. I’ve seen the kids they don’t want, who almost no one wants. You people focus only on the happy pink babies, the gigglers, the ones who grow and grow with no trouble. Those are not the kids who linger in foster care. Those are certainly not the older kids and teenagers who age out of foster care and then are thrown out in the streets, usually with an array of medical and mental health issues. Are they too old to count?

And yeah, I’ve seen the babies, little hand-sized things barely clinging to life. There’s no glory, no wonder there. There is no wonder in a pregnant woman with five dollars to her name, so deep in depression you wonder if she’ll be alive in a week. Therapy costs money. Medicine costs money. Food, clothes, electricity cost money. Government assistance is a pittance; poverty drives women and girls into situations where they are forced to rely on people who abuse them to survive. (I’ve been up in more hospitals than I can count.)

In each and every dark pit of desperation, I have never seen a pro-lifer. I ain’t never seen them babysitting, scrubbing floors, bringing over goods, handing mom $50 bucks a month or driving her to the pediatrician. I ain’t never seen them sitting up for hours with an autistic child who screams and rages so his mother can get some sleep while she rests up from working 14-hour days. I don’t see them fixing leaks in rundown houses or playing with a kid while the police prepare to interview her about her sexual abuse. They’re not paying for the funerals of babies and children who died after birth, when they truly do become independent organisms. And the crazy thing is they think they’ve already done their job, because the child was born!

Aphids give birth, girl. It’s no miracle. You want to speak for the weak? Get off your high horse and get your hands dirty helping the poor, the isolated, the ill and mentally ill women and mothers and their children who already breathe the dirty air. You are doing nothing, absolutely nothing, for children. You don’t have a flea’s comprehension of injustice. You are not doing shit for life until you get in there and fight that darkness. Until you understand that abortion is salvation in a world like ours. Does that sound too hard? Do you really think suffering post-birth is more permissible, less worthy of outrage?

“Pro-life” is simply a philosophy in which the only life worth saving is the one that can be saved by punishing a woman.

i will always love this commentary

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I just got tested for HIV


It had me thinking about the sexual education in my high school. Once a year they do STD testing and they take a large group and bring them into the auditorium to show an educational video about chlamydia and gonorrhea. Later they give everyone a paper bag and a cup and send them on their merry way.  

They never taught us that we should get tested regularly.

They never taught us that we should get tested for anything other than chlamydia or gonorrhea.

They never taught us what to do if we come up positive.

They never taught us how to talk to our partners about our status.

I think it all comes back to a fear people seem to have about sex. They feel that if we just don’t have it, then they don’t need to talk about anything else. It’s ridiculous and only perpetuates the problem that they are supposedly trying to combat. And I wish “they” was just one motha fucka that we could murk right quick, but unfortunately they is a mindset. And those are harder to battle.                                                         

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11 Facts about Sex Education in the US


  1. More than two thirds of all public school districts have a policy to teach sex education. The other 33% of districts leave policy decisions up to individual schools or teachers.
  2. Of all public school districts, 86% require that abstinence be promoted in their sex ed programs.
  3. Only 14% of public school districts with a policy to teach sexual education address abstinence as one option in a broader educational program to prepare adolescents to become sexually healthy adults.
  4. Over half of the districts in the South with a sex education policy have an abstinence-only policy, compared with 20% of such districts in the Northeast.
  5. More than 90% of teachers believe that students should be taught about contraception, but 25% are prohibited from doing so.
  6. The majority of Americans (including three quarters of parents) favor more comprehensive sexuality education over abstinence-only education.
  7. There are currently three federal programs dedicated to funding restrictive abstinence-only education, requiring programs to teach that sexual activity outside of marriage is wrong and harmful for people of any age, prohibits them from discussing contraceptive use except to emphasize their failure rates. These programs had a total annual funding of $102 million in 2002.
  8. About 35% require abstinence be taught as the only option for unmarried people and either prohibit the discussion of contraception altogether or limit discussion to its ineffectiveness. 15% of Americans would prefer an abstinence-only education.
  9. There is currently no federal law program dedicated to supporting comprehensive sexuality education that teaches young people about both abstinence and contraception.
  10. About 51% have a policy to teach abstinence as the preferred option for teens and permit discussion of contraception as an effective means of preventing pregnancy and STDs.
  11. Recent research shows that abstinence-only strategies may deter contraceptive use among sexually active teenagers, increasing their risk of unintended pregnancy and STDs.
Sources: Guttmacher Institute, Advocates for Youth, NPR, Sexuality Information and Education Council of the United States
Each one of these eleven facts serves to further reinforce the growing need and relevance of comprehensive sexuality education in public schools. I think that the eleventh fact has very interesting implications: by telling our youth not to engage in sex, we are creating a barrier of distrust. We are not validating their desires or even communicating that they are worthy of escaping the ignorances of previous generations. Our youth have more sexual health risks to deal with than ever before, and continuing to emphasize the failure rates of contraception is only making it less effective by eliminating the need for it. We need to create an environment for safe, informed decisions if these are the kinds of decisions that we want to prevail, or we will continue to live in denial and suffering.